“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness.” Eckhart Tolle
Life is full of uncertainties which are beyond our control. In such times we feel or come
across difficulty to accept it. Such time period checks our extent of patience and rationality. The
inability to accept the reality results in anger, frustration and rage. This is completely unhealthy
and threatening towards mental health and wellbeing. Just imagine that we all are in the similar
scenario of unacceptance and living in fear and anxiety. Don’t you think the world would look
doomed? Many of us think that acceptance is hard and it acts as an unbreakable wall. It is
straining. We feel we would lose our dominance and the power struggle comes in. We feel being
at passive mode though we have tried so hard to resist uncertainty. Our interpretation of
problems and uncertainties have attached interpretation of pain and suffering with difficulties
and uncertainties. Unacceptance brings more misery, damage and pain. We refuse to accept.
Acceptance doesn’t means that you agree with something. It is time and energy consuming to
deal with reality causing exhaustion. We lose opportunity to make things better if we keep on
refusing reality for prolonged period of time. Uncertainities are difficult, painful and
disappointing. However, such experiences are part of our lives. When we resist changes due to
such uncertainties, we add more trouble for us. We need to stop this loop of refusal and
unacceptance. It requires little patience and practice.
Life is abundant of experiences. Some experiences are good and some are bad. When we
resist feelings of sadness and sorrow, we also give up our ability to experience joy. It can lead to
destructive behaviour such as alcohol dependence, drug abuse, gambling, overspending,
overworking, etc. this may help avoidance of pain in short run but makes situation worst in long
terms. To overcome this one may look at making following changes to adapt and transform their
poison and sufferings into their medicine and immense joy:
- Mindfulness: it is the practice which involves you to be aware of present moment
without any judgment. It helps to understand and master acceptance without being highly
reactive to events, people and our thoughts and feelings. Instead of focusing on the past
or future, mindfulness supports giving attention to present moment and surroundings. It
can be done anywhere. It is helpful in reducing fixation on negative emotions,
impulsivity and outburst, and improves focus, memory and relationships.
- Constant evaluation is wrong: we always think in black and white, right and wrong.
We set our mind at certain things and feel whatever we want should take place as we desire. The practice of calm observation through which one perceive things without any reaction to them. It trains our mind to experience negative feelings and thoughts in non-reactive manner.
- Work in progress: acceptance takes time and conscious efforts. Sometimes we should
feel anger or fear but must move ahead. Don’t discard your feelings. Rather process
them. Develop and practice wellbeing and self-compassion.
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